Complacency

The sermon from Wednesday is still on my mind and this is what I took from it. ---------------->

Sometimes no action yields the biggest reaction. When you move past your complacency it threatens the roles/positions of others who have tried to hold you down or have become used to looking down on you! Be careful how you treat people, you never know how God will turn their situation around. You may just need them one day!

Before that I had only thought of complacency as a personal problem. Not how it affects others around you. I also only thought of it as the person being lazy. Turns out some are stuck where they are because they won't deal with the problems plaguing them out of fear and some are discouraged. While, some don't have enough faith in themselves or God to move them past where they feel stranded or won't move because they want to know the exact process or dictate it. 

I find it amazing how we stay in jobs, friendships, relationships and anything else you can name that stifles us or no longer feels right/fitting because we're scared. It use to baffle me that people would become irritated or vengeful when you decide to change, better yourself or try something new but now I now understand that the fear you have to do better doesn't scare you but others as well. 

Here are some examples:

When you don't agree with them, they tell you don't know what you're talking about or are inexperienced to have an opinion. 

They are never wrong.

When you decide to make amends with people/situations where you were wrong or wronged others they tell you you're living in the past and or being a "punk."

When you decide to try something new, you are not good enough or strong enough. 

No matter how others may react to you, the choice to change lies with you. They will either remain in your life and maybe even take your cue to do better or will walk out of your life. As T.D. Jakes says, "Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left." (Video is posted on the bottom).

Recently, I've been making changes for me and have seen how the demeanor in regards to me, has changed. Some positive and encouraging, while others have been attitudinal and negative. I can't worry or allow that to downtrodden me. I can only pray for them and keep it moving. Sometimes you have to know how to love people from a distance. What is meant to be, will be. As I have come to realize, no matter how deep the rift or how long the amount of time has passed since the disagreement has happened, if someone is meant to be in your life... they will be eventually!

It's never too late to try and change  certain things in your life but some of us are too old to endure some of the same vicious cycles we engulf ourselves in but you have to be willing to admit that a change needs to take place. 

What has been nagging you in the back of your mind? Why have you chosen to remain complacent?