Stunting Growth

After I took a nap today, I was flicking through the television and came across Tyler Perry's The family that preys. To me it is one of his best movies, contains the less amount of coonery and predictable story lines. Although, I LOATHE that wig he has on!!!! One of my favorite scenes is when Chris finds out about his wife's affair and slaps her (not condoning the domestic violence but she was WRONG). In the aftermath of their argument, her mother (played by Alfre Woodard) tells her "You can't make yourself happy by bringing misery to other people."

The backstory to that is that she was mad about her Dad leaving and blamed her mom, so she was all about self and trying to live a grand lifestyle at anyone's expense. One thing I also noticed about her was that she felt invincible. Sad that she would hold onto her parents divorce for 30 years but not notice what she was doing to everyone else that was in her life and was trying to love her.

Why is it in life, some people are hellbent on bringing misery to others? Why can't we grasp the concept that vengeance belongs to the Lord? Why do we harbor such resentment when people don't act the way we want them to or threaten to tell secrets/lies and whatever else to whoever will listen when the noble thing to do is just part ways. Why can't we let people go? I myself have been guilty of it.

I am a firm believer that every person that enters our life comes for a purpose and they are only meant to stay for season or a lifetime. Simply put REASON, SEASON or LIFETIME!!! Some of these people will exit at some point and return but how will the reception be on their end if you've been out trying to bring them down in their absence. 

Nothing is more true that God having a sense of humor!! "Wanna make God laugh tell him your plans." <---- Something I hear older people say and it's the truth. Nobody has a perfect family or perfect friends. Most of the things we have learned have come form accidents and mistakes. With so much beauty in the world why focus on the bad times and the pain?

For some, I think they are scared to move past misery because they have let it define them.

Some don't know their worth and or don't know who they are.

Others believe the nonsense they tell themselves and others.

Some think they know it all and how they feel and think is law or a fact. 

Some can only focus on how they feel. 

Change is inevitable! Sometimes it comes because you force people out of your life and some opportunities vanish. Sometimes you just outgrow the situation or relationship. No matter how it happens we have to learn to let go and move forward. Advice my dad gave me is "when you hold onto someone who isn't thinking about you or something that isn't for you, you block allowing better people and things to come into your life. As your parents we can pray for you but if your fist is closed, how can God put something else in your grasp?"

What are you holding on or trying to make work that should be let go? And, why are you trying so hard not to embrace change?